You Really Don’t Have to Give Him Your Number

Plenty of girls are too nice. They apologize when something isn’t their fault and they feel bad about stuff they shouldn’t. For example, they for some reason feel obligated to give out their phone number to every dude that asks for it. We’ve all been there – you’re at a bar or a party talking to a guy who you’re not particularly interested in and when he asks for your number you begrudgingly give it to him. Then you put his number in your contacts as “DO NOT ANSWER,” block his calls, ignore his texts, and wish you had originally told him that you were already in a relationship or a lesbian or a leprechaun. We go through a lot of trouble because we don’t want to be honest and reject the guy to his face. For some reason it’s much more easy to offer a piece of personal information to a stranger than admitting that you’re just not interested, and I think that should change.

Some people might say that women give their phone numbers to guys that don’t stand a chance because they like “leading men on.” I hate that term. Waking up to 8 text messages from a clueless guy is not something that most women relish. Women don’t give out their numbers because they like the (unwanted) attention, they do it because they feel like they don’t have a choice in the matter. And they’re just too nice so they’d feel bad for saying no. Fuck that! Just say no! Tell the dude that he’s creepy or not your type or that you have a boyfriend, and then walk away. Put an end to the awkward situation right then. You can even tell him “you’re welcome” for not wasting his time. You’re doing both parties involved a huge favor. Promise me you won’t give out a fake phone number again. And if your courage wavers, just remember the wise words of TLC: “No, I don’t want your number. No, I don’t want to give you mine.”